"Where are the clothes for the girls who eat lunch?" I jokingly asked a meek little salesclerk at an upscale clothing store. I was looking for any article of clothing in a size higher than an 8. Just a little higher, mind you, not even close to plus size.
She snickered - because I made a funny - then sheepishly replied, "We don't have any."
So, let me see if I understand this correctly. It doesn't matter that I'm healthy and in great shape. It doesn't matter that my cholesterol is normal, my blood pressure is borderline low and I'm not diabetic. It doesn't matter that I exercise daily and limit my caloric intake to the recommended amount for my age and height - less, actually. What matters is I can't squeeze into what you've decided are acceptable measurements for a woman's body?
I left, annoyed but not devastated. I get frustrated when I see something pretty that I can't get in my size but it doesn't make me feel less attractive. I've fought hard to get to a place of self acceptance and nobody is going to take that away from me.
On this day before Valentine's Day, a holiday that can be very difficult for many women who feel lonely or unloveable, I want to remind my fellow Spashionistas that you have to love yourself first regardless of what the scale says. Even girls who eat lunch can be knockouts. Just take a look at these lovely ladies courtesy of Pinterest.
Last, but certainly not least, my personal favorite.
Love yourself first and others will find you irresistible. Now, who's hungry?