If You Don't Like The Way I Look

Then you are going to absolutely hate this post.

The holiday season can bring out the best in people. Sadly, it can also bring out the snark. I recently received some lovely feedback from someone whose name I will not mention. Their intent, I think, was to provide me with a fresh perspective concerning this blog.

"U look like s**t," was the opening salvo. "U r fat and old u lok like a retard. Stop it."

I am so grateful for these pearls of wisdom. I think my eloquent friend deserves an explanation, don't you?

First of all, I'm crippled, not retarded. There's nothing wrong with being intellectually disabled, however, I am only physically disabled.

Secondly, I'm well aware of what I look like. If you think I'm doing this out of some arrogant sense of self-deluded ideation  (lots of big words; Google them) you are mistaken. I know that I twitch and shake. I know that I'm round, aging, spastic, and that I don't photograph or film well except on a fluke. Believe me when I tell you that I am keenly aware of every physical flaw I possess. But, I've come to terms with how I look. I will never be thin, or young, or graceful. I will always be round (although I'm working to be a little less so), I get older every day, and I am a spaz. I write this blog not out of some misplaced conceit. I do it so that every other woman who may be round, or old, or palsied, can hold her head up and feel beautiful.

Finally, I can take comfort in the fact that I am not you. I do appreciate your candor, but I've been called worse names by better people - and in person, not hiding behind a computer screen. Vitriolic comments sting at first, but they tend to only make me stronger. So no, I won't, "Stop it".

Thank you and Merry Christmas.

To the rest of you; thank you for everything. It's good to be me!

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Fashion Friday: Travels With Louis

Louis Vuitton, that is.

This week's Fashion Friday is centered around my fabulous thrift store find, the Louis Vuitton Keepall 60 Shoulder Bag.

The outfit is made up of classic, tailored separates. Straight-legged trouser "leggings", belt, three-quarter sleeved V-neck top, blazer, and pointy-toed flats. The accessories are the focus here - they're all from Louis Vuitton. Of course, the anchor piece is the Keepall, but I also chose a Monogram Tulum Pochette Key Cles Holder, a Vintage LV Lock Necklace, a pair of Authentic Louis Vuitton Kusama Waves Flower Sunglasses, and a Louis Vuitton Tambour Mysterieuse Watch. Even the cane is special. It's a Twisted Bocote Hame Top Exotic Walking Cane from Brazos Walking Sticks.

All in all it's a sophisticated combination that shows a lot of love for LV. Will I ever come close to owning any more of these pieces? Maybe, but if all I ever see of this outfit is the Keepall I'm not going to cry.

Spashionistas Wanted

The outfits that I put together for Fashion Friday are based on my BODS profile. Sure, some of the items I use are beyond my price range but I’m certain I can find reasonable equivalents within my budget. I would love the opportunity to put some together for you for the next installment of Fashion Friday. If you’re interested email me with your BODS profile and we’ll make it happen!

Fashion Friday: September Style

This week I'm going to show you two versions of Fashion Friday. One is the haute couture version; the other is my budget workaround.         

Here are two outfits perfect for running around town in post-Labor Day style. Given that it's made up of separates either outfit's pieces are very versatile and can be dressed up or down in many different ways depending on what each piece is paired with. In my opinion versatility adds value. I'm more inclined to buy separates I can use in multiple ways because it makes my clothing budget money go further.

If you've got money to burn you can opt for the $2,400 Chanel Vintage tweed jacket, the Jason Wu color block stretch jersey pencil skirt for $695, Costume National leather sandals at $400, and the $3,400 Bottega Venata "Cervo" Fire (Orange) Leather Woven Satchel. Total cost for the designer label version is $6,895.

My version is considerably cheaper but no less chic. The black cotton Contrast jacket is from the clearance rack at Marshall's and set me back $19.99. My skirt is fresh off the racks of Forever21+. Can you believe an "XL" is considered a plus size? At $17.80 I could care less what they call it. I call it a good deal. My black XAPPEAL heels are from Rack Room Shoes as part of a BOGO so they cost me $16.50. The bag is a TJ Maxx find, a certified "vegan" bag from Urban Expressions and a steal at $32.00. Total cost for my cheap knockoff look is a whopping $86.25.

Now I'm off to get ready for the British Invasion. I get to play tour guide this weekend - I expect it'll be tons of fun!

Spashionistas Wanted

The outfits that I put together for Fashion Friday are based on my BODS profile. Sure, some of the items I use are beyond my price range but I’m certain I can find reasonable equivalents within my budget. I would love the opportunity to put some together for you for the next installment of Fashion Friday. If you’re interested email me with your BODS profile and we’ll make it happen!

Fashion Friday: Desperately Seeking Audrey

This week I wanted to do something fun and flirty yet chic and timeless. The idea came to me as I was watching "Desperately Seeking Susan" one day and "Breakfast At Tiffany's" several days later. It struck me how fashion forward and iconic both Madonna and Audrey Hepburn were for their respective generations. I decided to use some of the fun elements of the 80's, the Pink Wayfarers, the Malene Birger Cirkella Bangles, the Kenneth Jay Lane Multi-Shape Pink and Orange Dangle Earrings, and a Brahmin Marilyn Polka Dot Back Pack as an homage to Madonna. To marry this with Hepburn's classic sense of style I chose a White Forever New Sophia Polka Dot Dress, Oroton Pink Bowed Ballet Flats, and a Bow-Accent Striped Visor Hat. To complete the look we have my favorite Black with White Polka Dot Crutches from Coolcrutches.com.

Susan Go-Lightly? Maybe not, but close enough for me to wear without feeling like I'm stuck in my youth or doomed to middle-aged frump.

Spashionistas Wanted

The outfits that I put together for Fashion Friday are based on my BODS profile. Sure, some of the items I use are beyond my price range but I’m certain I can find reasonable equivalents within my budget. I would love the opportunity to put some together for you for the next installment of Fashion Friday. If you’re interested email me with your BODS profile and we’ll make it happen!

Fashion Friday: Teacher's Pet

It's that time again when teachers and students alike file back into the learning institutions of our country to educate and learn from each other - and yes, I believe it's often a reciprocal process, especially if either has a disability.

Here we have an inexpensive red shirtdress from Kohl's that's appropriate for student and teacher alike. I've chosen to accessorize from a student's POV with a denim backpack and some youthful baubles but you can swap these out for more sophisticated pieces if school's out for you. This week's challenge is styling around the DAFO leg brace. I had never heard of these until I read about them on Kristen's Life With Cerebral Palsy and was immediately inspired to incorporate a DAFO brace into this week's look. Normally I'm not a fan of the Ugg booties but, in this case, they afford both ample room and pretty camouflage for the brace. While they don't occlude it completely they are an infinitely more stylish choice with this outfit than a pair of athletic shoes.

Spashionistas Wanted

The outfits that I put together for Fashion Friday are based on my BODS profile. Sure, some of the items I use are beyond my price range but I’m certain I can find reasonable equivalents within my budget. I would love the opportunity to put some together for you for the next installment of Fashion Friday. If you’re interested email me with your BODS profile and we’ll make it happen!

Fashion Friday: Vixen

This week's Fashion Friday is not really about the clothes per say - although I had to give props to my favorite, Elomi lingerie. Instead, it's about the vibe you give off in the clothes. Take the perfect bra as discussed in Your Support System, add a sexy dress or top, and polish it off with the most essential underpinning; smouldering confidence. The result is the quintessential vixen.

Please note that most of the lovely ladies above are not a size 0. Also notice the hot number on wheels Alexandra Santibanez, spokesmodel for wheelchair manufacturer Colours.

I hope that I have succeeded in nullifying any crap excuses you may have been harboring to avoid letting your inner vixen out. I can see her very clearly in all of us.

Spashionistas Wanted

The outfits that I put together for Fashion Friday are based on my BODS profile. Sure, some of the items I use are beyond my price range but I’m certain I can find reasonable equivalents within my budget. I would love the opportunity to put some together for you for the next installment of Fashion Friday. If you’re interested email me with your BODS profile and we’ll make it happen!