I'm So Metal I'm Fearless

Well, not exactly.

Next month I will be celebrating my 52nd birthday. I'm not depressed or upset by it, but I do feel a pressing sense that time is running out for me to accomplish everything I'm planning to achieve before my warranty expires. So, in that vein, I'm going to venture outside of my comfort zone and try a few things I've always been afraid would look ridiculous. There will be successes and there will be failures, and I will be the first one to point them both out.

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I'm standing in front of Nashville's iconic Exit Inn night club. The wall behind me is actually a who's who of predominantly rock royalty that have graced the club with their performances. I've never been - they used to be inaccessible - but I plan on trying to check them out soon.

I'm wearing all white (terrifying), sleeveless (mortifying), and wearing florals to boot (mystifying). But I'm being brave about my leukophobia, anthrophobia, and cellulitephobia! Here I am in a white peplum top by Premise. I've always has big arms so I normally steer very clear of sleeveless tops and elasticized waistbands but this one is cut in such a way that it really works for my body type. Here are my white jeans from Chico's making their inaugural appearance. They are very comfy and fit just right. I do think they're still a tad too long and probably need to go back to Ann Rich to be hemmed even shorter. The floral scarf is from Shi. I was visiting my friend Matty there recently and I confessed that I was clueless as to how to wear a scarf. He draped it on me just so and said, "Like that". The beautiful silver multicolored cuff is from Stein Mart. The bandage on my other wrist is from Vanderbilt Orthopaedic Hand Clinic - more on that in the future. I'm reprising my metallic pewter skull clutch, also from Shi, as are the ZigiSoho metallic pewter spiked shoes from several seasons ago.

Linking up for Visible Monday, Monday Mingle and How I Wear My Metallics.

Cerebral Palsy Awareness Month

Did you know that March is Cerebral Palsy Awareness Month? No? Well, don't feel bad. Up until a few days ago I didn't, either.

For those of you that are not familiar with CP it's an incurable condition which, according to Wikipedia, is generally caused by "damage to the motor control centers of the developing brain and can occur during pregnancy, during childbirth or after birth up to about age three. Resulting limits in movement and posture cause activity limitation and are often accompanied by disturbances of sensation, depth perception, and other sight-based perceptual problems, communication ability; impairments can also be found in cognition, and epilepsy is found in about one-third of cases. CP, no matter what the type, is often accompanied by secondary musculoskeletal problems that arise as a result of the underlying disorder."

In short, I have brain damage (hecklers insert snide remark here).

The truth is although this blog has made me more conscious of how my Cerebral Palsy comes across to others in the photos and videos on my posts I rarely give my condition a second thought otherwise. But that's because I've had 50+ years of practice to forget about it. I've lived a very "mainstreamed" life (and raised a lot of hell) but I am the exception and not the rule. There are many, many men and women with CP out there that are constantly underestimated, misunderstood, and overlooked.  They can't forget about it because every day presents new challenges to move, to speak, or to prosper. Please take a little time this month to do a little research on, read a book about, or ask a few questions regarding Cerebral Palsy from a professional or a "member of the club" like me.

Since the ribbon for Cerebral Palsy Awareness is green, and yesterday was St Patrick's Day, today's outfit is the one I wished I had photographed in time for Adrienne Shubin's "How I wear my green" challenge.

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It was finally warm enough for me to wear a lighter jacket to take these photos in a little park at Nashville West Center. This lined, embellished jacket is by Life Style petite and is perfect for a spring day. It's also the only new piece in the outfit. The flat-front, pull-on Westbound petite jeans are from the thrift store. I'm a huge Beatles fan so when I found this Abbey Road T-shirt at T J Maxx I had to have it. Wing-tipped, denim, Groove oxfords were a Marshall's find from last year. They somehow got put away and forgotten about so this is their debut. The Sophie watch is one of my favorites purchased four years ago. The battery died last year but I replaced it just in time for this year's hot color trend.

I realize the T-shirt is a bit askew. I'm afraid I can't always straighten out the minor details before my hubby starts snapping photos. Because it's nearly impossible for me to hold still or smile without grimacing I try to strike some semblance of a pose before he starts taking many, many pictures in hopes that some will be usable. This is a symptom of my particular form of Cerebral Palsy. Forgive me; I'm not going to sweat a lopsided shirt too terribly much.

Linking up again with Patti at Not Dead Yet Style for Visible Monday and my first Monday Mingle.

Passionate About Girls Who Eat Lunch

"Where are the clothes for the girls who eat lunch?" I jokingly asked a meek little salesclerk at an upscale clothing store. I was looking for any article of clothing in a size higher than an 8. Just a little higher, mind you, not even close to plus size.

She snickered - because I made a funny - then sheepishly replied, "We don't have any."

So, let me see if I understand this correctly. It doesn't matter that I'm healthy and in great shape. It doesn't matter that my cholesterol is normal, my blood pressure is borderline low and I'm not diabetic.  It doesn't matter that I exercise daily and limit my caloric intake to the recommended amount for my age and height - less, actually. What matters is I can't squeeze into what you've decided are acceptable measurements for a woman's body?

I left, annoyed but not devastated. I get frustrated when I see something pretty that I can't get in my size but it doesn't make me feel less attractive. I've fought hard to get to a place of self acceptance and nobody is going to take that away from me.

On this day before Valentine's Day, a holiday that can be very difficult for many women who feel lonely or unloveable, I want to remind my fellow Spashionistas that you have to love yourself first regardless of what the scale says. Even girls who eat lunch can be knockouts. Just take a look at these lovely ladies courtesy of Pinterest.

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Last, but certainly not least, my personal favorite.

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Love yourself first and others will find you irresistible. Now, who's hungry?

Visible Monday: Errand Girl

This is my very first Visible Monday post. It requires a little backstory.

As I've mentioned before I can't drive, but it doesn't particularly bother me. I'm used to spending the bulk of my time at home and Mr Spashionista and I run our errands on his days off. Last weekend he bent down to tie his shoe and threw his back out very badly. It was so bad we ended up in the ER. He was in no condition to drive for the rest of the week.

We live out in the country where there are no buses and no grocery or restaurant delivery so I had to grab some groceries at the very least. Fortunately, my good- hearted friend Lani offered to take me into West Nashville to take care of a few things.

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You've seen some of these pieces before, but they were dressed up, not down. This being Nashville, denim is a staple and these Nine West "Date Night" capri jeans are perfect for a busy day. They really are capris, but I'm not quite 5' tall so on me they're skinny jeans! Okay, I'm not skinny, either, but you get the idea. The navy knit top is an R-Q-T Petite. Being incredibly buxom I generally steer clear of knit tops that are cut this high, but this one has a built-in silver mock ringed necklace detail that draws the eye down a bit. My ruffled raspberry Baccini jacket is terrific if I have to push myself in my wheelchair for long distances because it stays put. Because it's made of polyeurethane it also wipes clean if the sleeves get a little wheelchair spoke schmutz on them.

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Just because I'm running errands doesn't mean I have to look boring, right? Here's a navy sequined oxford done oh-so-right courtesy of Shi by Journeys. The socks are fisherman’s cable ivory boot socks I talked about in Shop Smart, Stay Fit, Get Noticed, Be Fabulous

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The accessories are worth a look, too. The watch is silicone two toned purple from Stein Mart. Finally, this marks the debut of my cuff-styled Medic Alert bracelet. In all honesty my expectations for this trinket were pretty low but I'm happy to have been prove wrong. For what it is it's understated and inconspicuous. I will have several other Medic Alert bracelets to show off in the near future.

Thanks to Patti at Not Dead Yet Style for letting me play in her sandbox. I hope to participate in more Visible Monday linkups in the future.

Fashion Friday: Out Damned Spot

I promised to share with you what I wore to the Nashville Shakespeare Festival's performance of MacBeth.

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Okay, not as over the top as last week's Fashion Friday outfit. Nevertheless, it certainly stood out amidst the sea of grey sweatpants and beige puffer jackets. Honestly, is it that difficult to dress up just a little?

There's only a few recent pieces here, but the idea was to pay homage to the play and it's plot. Red, of course, is the appropriate color for this purpose. This Connected Apparel red cowl necked wool dress was purchased this past fall from TJ Maxx and set me back a mere $20. My wing tipped Mary Janes by Franco Sarto are 3" high - my maximum - and are five years old. The Marvin Richards faux fur leopard cape was my nod to the infamous soliloquy and is last year's clearance find from Stein Mart at $30. You've seen the skull clutch from Shi before so you know it was a Christmas gift. Although you can't see it in this photo I'm also wearing the antique citrine necklace I received for the holidays.

I enjoyed the production and set design of the play immensely. I did not enjoy a fair portion of the acting. It is the downfall of nearly every Shakespearean play I've seen that the actors race through their lines as if they'd just been set ablaze and must spit out their words before the fire can be extinguished. When will they learn to slow down enough to give the bard's words the weight they deserve? Lady MacBeth, in particular, was delivered manic from beginning to end, devoid of any sort of character arc whatsoever.

Still, I appreciate the actors, even Lady Mac, and those that worked so hard to realize a Shakespearean play on a cold January night in Nashville. It's not an easy task and I understand that all too well. I look forward to their interpretation of A Midsummer Night's Dream this summer.

Spashionistas Wanted

The outfits that I put together for Fashion Friday are based on my BODS profile. Sure, some of the items I use are beyond my price range but I’m certain I can find reasonable equivalents within my budget. I would love the opportunity to put some together for you for the next installment of Fashion Friday. If you’re interested email me with your BODS profile and we’ll make it happen!

Fashion Friday: The Play's The Thing

With any luck, sometime this weekend I will be attending a performance of my favorite  Shakespearean play, MacBeth, by the Nashville Shakespeare Festival. Who could resist playing dress up to watch the Scottish power couple's witty repartee?

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Admittedly, this outfit is as over-the-top as Lady MacBeth's soliloquy - very Rachel Zoe meets Ziggy Stardust. I'm not even going to bother posting prices for this outfit. Chances are good you can't afford these labels. But you can afford a good, straight-legged pair of red wool trousers like the ones pictured. Pair it with a black sequined sweater. If you can't find one, sequined tanks are everywhere. Buy a black one and wear it over a black sweater. Just make sure the necklines coordinate with each other. Don't have a white feathered stole handy? Go for a cape or faux fur jacket. A coat would ruin the proportions here so stick with shorter outerwear.

To further gild this lily take note of the strong, graphic bangle. This one is Marc by Marc Jacobs but any chunky, funky bracelet will do. The same goes for the Unsigned bead and rhinestone choker. I chose to stick with red in honor of Mrs Mac, which is why I selected these fabulous Blink Silass ruby ankle boots. They are very similar to my leopard wedge Sugar boots from Shi, and at $70 are the least expensive items in this outfit. Add a little textural interest with a black lace clutch like this one by Dolce & Gabbana. You can ride around in your crimson carriage in royal style!

If you're good next week I may post what I plan to wear, weather permitting, if I go. It won't be this flashy, I promise you it won't be low-key, either!

Spashionistas Wanted

The outfits that I put together for Fashion Friday are based on my BODS profile. Sure, some of the items I use are beyond my price range but I’m certain I can find reasonable equivalents within my budget. I would love the opportunity to put some together for you for the next installment of Fashion Friday. If you’re interested email me with your BODS profile and we’ll make it happen!