Changing Perceptions

The outfit, is basic, classic and neutral. That doesn't mean it's frumpy or boring. Neither am I, nor am I brave, lazy, or an opportunist because of my disability. These are perceptions that need to change. This is the year we change Nashville's perceptions about people with disabilities in a big, big way. I'm cooking something up, and I'll tell you all about it right after Nashville Fashion Week. Speaking of which, do you have your all-access pass yet? If not, get it here.

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Black White And Shades Of Grey

The star of this simple outfit is the Margaret Ellis Jewelry beaded necklace. A beautiful string of shapes and shimmer in black, white and grey, this was a holiday gift that I will wear often. You can expect to see more stunning creations designed by McLaine Richardson - who owns Margaret Ellis Jewelry - in the future. I'll bet you thought my "shades of grey" title was a click-bait reference to fetishism.  Well, sort of. It's not meant to deceive. What I'm about to tell you really happened.

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Aladdin Sane

I wasn't going to write about David Bowie. Not here, anyway; I figured it would just be overkill. There comes a point where too much attention, too much emotion is desensitizing. But there are tangible reasons why so many were moved by his passing. One of my friends wrote on Facebook, "He was more important than the music; he gave us permission to be unusual and be proud of it". Another observed that we mourn not because we knew him, but because he helped us to know ourselves. As someone who is unusual by default and not by choice, those words really resonate with me. 

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The Silence of Our Friends

A guest post written by Clint Searcy

Today is Martin Luther King Day. Looking back it can be difficult for younger people to understand why any caring person would comply with the unfair rules of segregation that Dr. King worked to remove. If I told you today there was still a business in your neighborhood with a physical barrier outside it's door to prevent a minority from coming in you would most likely be outraged. Surely, you would refuse to do business in that establishment. So my question is this. Why do you?

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Disability Horizons Fashion Guru

I am very excited to announce I am now a Fashion and Disability #DHGuru for Disability Horizons: A 21st Century View of Disability. I'll be writing a bimonthly piece about Disability and Fashion, and I hope you'll check out my debut entry, Disability and fashion: a spashionista’s guide to shopping. Although some of it is disability specific the majority speaks to strategies that are useful to anyone. Please check it out - and share, share, share with your friends!

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Ballgowns And Barriers

Last month I put on my best outrageous vintage lavender gown, complete with built-in capelet (as one does) and headed for costumer extraordinaire Manuel's Christmas Party. The party took place at  The Standard which, according to their page on Yelp, is wheelchair accessible. But it isn't. Not even close. So I sat there in my lavender gown feeling left out and foolish. I had to leave. 

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Shop Nashville For The Holi-Daze

It's been a bumpy December so far. But I haven't really got a right to complain. I have many gifts that money can't buy. The love of a good man, the bond of true friendships, the devotion of my dogs, and the desire to be a better person every day. And, when I feel overwhelmed I can dress local from head to toe and enjoy the holiday lights around Nashville.

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What's Wrong With You

"What's wrong with you?" This was the sentence of the week. I first heard it in response to the now viral "artistic" photo shoot featuring one of the Kardashian/Jenner bunch posing in fetish attire and sitting in a golden wheelchair. Just a few days ago, the question was directed at me during a Christmas party I attended. A man I didn't know (a very drunk man) staggered over to me and asked, "So...what's wrong with you?

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